Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Forget yourself and go to work

Snow fell yesterday. I have a comfortable chair that reclines next to our bedroom window so I can look outside while I work, read, sleep, or watch television (F.Y.I., The Price is Right is pretty good these days). As I sat in my chair I heard the scrapping of snow on our driveway and looked out to see a friend, who I have not seen in months, out shoveling our snow. I called him this morning and I learned he was out of work. And yet what did he choose to do yesterday instead of sorrow in his jobless pity? He got up, put on a coat, grabbed his shovel, and served another.
This friend is one example of many who have selflessly given of their time and talents to bless the lives of another even though their own circumstances are dire. Albert Einstein wrote, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” And Gandhi declared, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

I’m grateful to the Baron Music Group whose gathered many of my colleagues and friends for a benefit concert in behalf of our family called "Living for Eden." Our friends Kurt Bestor, Peter Breinholt, Ryan Shupe & The Rubberband, Colors, and Sam Payne are all incredible artists and musicians who normally get paid to do these acts of kindness and so we are truly humbled. Several of them spent last week in Bulgaria performing for some orphanages and yet they come home to do even more for others. I can tell you that if these guys were selling cars they’d probably make a fortune. Yet, they choose to uplift and inspire through the power of music.

In my own situation, and through the years, if I’ve learned anything about life it is that in order to have true and lasting happiness (which is “joy”) you can’t wallow in your own suffering or poverty but use it to an advantage in empowering yourself to reach out to those with much greater need. “Forget yourself and go to work,” said Gordon B. Hinckley. And from Neal A. Maxwell, "God does not begin by asking us about our ability, but only about our availability, and if we then prove our dependability, he will increase our capability.”

16 comments:

  1. Just like we were talking about last week. Well-written post, my friend.

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  2. Often when something or a trial comes my way, the first thing I thing of is what kind of service can I do for someone else. May it be that having a disabled brother my 27 years of my life has helped. As I look to my parents and see the years of service they have done for my brother. I will not lie and say it all has been easy, I often find myself in tears, it seems more often then not.
    This past weekend I decided it was time to move on from the losses of my stillborn sons and provide a wonderful family in my ward who lost a little girl at 22 weeks and had her twin brother at 29 weeks, a miracle in itself, I gave them 2 bags of boy clothes, still tagged and unworn. Yes, it was hard but what a relief.
    I respect your neighbor, it is such a hard time for many.. I truely believe you will be blessed. Service is the greatest gift. I am looking forward to the GREAT service your wonderful friends are going to put on in behalf of your darling family! Thanks again for reminding us what is important.

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  3. I'm still trying to figure this all out, and though I've believed those words all my life, and tried to live them, I still feel there is something about endurance that is just a part of life. My favorite song to sing first thing in the morning is "Have I Done Any Good in the World Today". I start off just about EVERY SINGLE DAY with this hymn (both verses). Now, I don't have the gift of music, not even in my voice. But I LOVE to "sing" (er, make a joyful noise). But that song sets the stage for my day. I feel I am pretty true to that anthem, and yet my heart is so very heavy. VERY hurt. I find "comfort", or at least direction, in words from the same author of your latest quote:

    Neal A. Maxwell, “Content with the Things Allotted unto Us,” Ensign, May 2000, 72


    Neal A. Maxwell, “‘Plow in Hope’,” Liahona, Jul 2001, 72–74

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    I really like Maxwell's way with words. I am glad you shared your insights again as well. I am grateful to learn from others, because all the "right answers" have not always worked to make things "right". So though I continue trying to live up to the anthem of doing good in the world today, sometimes I must just accept that at the end of the day, it is still going to hurt. And like you say, just get up and keep going again tomorrow, even if it isn't how you expected it to go.

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  4. No words can emulate the impact your posts have been to so many of us. "Thankyou" is too small of a word to say for your example and optimism for life. Thankyou for your incredible talents that you've shared with your music. May your family be so blessed to have you here for many, many more years. Your Family is Beautiful, You all are an inspiration of the beauty of life. We keep you in our prayers.

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  5. Paul, you've inspired me to go and shovel some snow.

    Thanks for that.

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  6. Paul your beautiful words inspire me to be just a little better each day. I was in need of an injection of hope today and your post was just what I needed. You are an inspiration to me. I didn't know until after I had been following you for a while that I was in the RS presidency in Draper with your wife's cousin, Chelle. This makes following this story from afar a little closer. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.

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  7. Paul, it was great touching base with an old school mate again! I appreciate your spirit and example of patience. It's nice to be able to talk to someone who can understand more perfectly what it's like to live with a CHD. I definitely will keep you in my prayers. You are needed here!

    Keep in touch!

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  8. I needed this today, thanks! I do fine serving in my calling,taking dinners etc...but sometimes I get burned out in service to my little family, and yet that is the most important service I give!

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  9. I have been reading your blog for a little bit now...I did not know that you had a heart problem, but recognized your name because of your music...I believe you came to the ISU Institute for a fireside awhile back...Anyways, I am inspired by all of your blogs. What an inspiration because of your faith, I am working on developing my own...Good Luck and best of wishes to you and your family.
    Jen

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  10. Dear Brother Cardall-

    My name is Kyle. I am 19 years old, and preparing to serve the Lord on a mission in Everett, Washington. Over the past months, while waiting to leave, I have felt the Lords hands in my life as He prepares me to teach His children in Washington.

    Unfortunately, I have also felt the adversary’s hand in my life. The past months have been difficult with temptations and thoughts of self doubt. The adversary does not want me to go on this mission.

    Music has been a big part of my life, and so has my religion. So it wasn't by coincidence that I recently came across your music. By listening to your music whenever the thoughts of self doubt or temptations came upon me, and by praying to the Lord, I came out of the battle victoriously.

    So... Thanks. Your music helped me alot. I wish I could give you something in return. I wish I could attend the Living For Eden concert, but I leave for the MTC April 1st. However, my prayers and faith are certainly with you.

    Thanks,
    Kyle

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  11. Paul, this is a friend back from SLCC. I do not even know if you will remember me. Laurri Stay was my name at the time. Now I am happily married. I appreciate your comments especially right now. I love how you say

    The world in general becomes more beautiful. Each day is a new gift from God. Life becomes a greater opportunity to do something positive to make this world better. “Every man dies. Not every man really lives,” said William Wallace (Braveheart)

    I just recently ( a few weeks ago) had a baby who was diagnosed with achondroplasia. It has been a surprise but as I have prayed and asked God for understanding, it is amazing what has come across my path. Thank you for your strength. It comes at a perfect time for me.

    And by the congratulations on all your success. Wow, you have come so far since we served on student government together.

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  12. Yes! Yes! Yes! No wallowing (easier said that done) ;-) Just empowerment!

    I would pay big bucks to be at that concert!! Are they going to record it?? That would be GREAT! I would be first in line to buy a copy if it's available.

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  13. Brother Cardall-

    What beautiful words you have expressed that have touched each of our hearts.
    Thank you for sharing your sweet testimony and tender feelings of your heart.
    I too remark in the blessings that come from serving others and know that when we are serving we are sharing a piece of heaven.
    We pray for you daily Paul...and although we dont know what lies ahead, we know the Lord has a plan for you and your sweet family.
    He loves you and all of His children.
    Thank you for your Christlike example.
    Hugs-

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  14. So I commented on your blog earlier today and then recieved a phone call from HomeHealth and I am guessing it was never sent. Anyhow, it was great to see you today, even if from afar. I was hoping to 'officialy' meet you and your wife but Dr Tawni had just walked into the room and Kaidence was trying to make her great escape. The transplant team was waiting on me to do her exam. I hope that you don't think that I was rude. I was hoping to talk more with you and your wife. By the time that I was done with Kaidence's appointment Dr. E was already in your room. How was your appointment today?

    I am so excited for your concert. You have wonderful friends, but it sounds like you have been a great friend as well. I hope to 'really' meet you and your wife sometime soon. We aren't at PCMC as much lately, we have graduated from cardiology twice a week to once every eight weeks. Who knew there was such a thing?
    I keep waiting for the day that I log on and see the 'big post' that we have all been waiting for.

    Take care and let us know if you need anything.
    Please know that we think of you and your family daily. We are praying for you. Hang in there!

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  15. Humbled and grateful to you've linked our little miracle on your blog. A heartfelt thank you! We've included you on ours as well and count it a privilege to pray for you as your prepare for your transplant!

    Your little Eden is PRECIOUS - but you know that!
    Blessings,
    Mandy
    Mommy to Evangeline

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  16. God Bless You Paul! You have lifted my heart today! Your sweet sister has been a friend to the Walker's for a long time (Rick/Mare) and so I keep updated but please know that you are in our prayers! I know first hand that the challenges are not always easy to understand on this side of life, but you will get through this....so many love and care for you. Hope you can make an appearance at the concert. I hope people know that even if that can't attend it they can still donate! Please do! With love and Prayers..Angie

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